Overthinking how you feel is not healing how you feel.
Analyzing the past, tracing traumas to their roots, figuring out who deserves blame, recognizing the circumstances that brought you to where you are today… all of that is great for understanding your problem, but it doesn’t solve the problem.
If you feel as though you’re always stuck in negative feeling cycles and nothing can bring you relief, it’s probably because you’re not letting your feelings out in a real way.
You’re simply analyzing them as a matter of giving yourself some temporary relief.
When you’re intellectualizing how you feel, you’re avoiding the real and hard work of actually metabolizing how you feel. It’s not about knowing where the pain came from. It’s letting yourself process it so you can finally move on.